What if...maybe this wouldn't have happened?

'What if I said no, this pobably wouldn't have happened?'
'What if I told her/him straight away, maybe this wouldn't end up like this'
'What if I wasn't with him, it wouldn't have happened.'
'What if I tired harder, the result probably wouldn't be like this.'
'What if... what if...'

Have you ever thought back about certain incidents and predict the possible result IF you did something different? I used to always do that...'what if...'

But I try not to anymore because everything happens for a reason. Certain people are in and out of our life for a reason. Our personality is shaped by our experiences. If we didn't go through certain situations, we wouldn't be the person we are today.

I just think to myself maybe it was good thing it happened, because it made me learn from it, grow up, understand that nothing is perfect, its not a perfect and simple world out there, know certain people more, etc. Also, time will show what and who really matters.

A good example of mine is when I was in my first relationship. I really believed that he was going to be my husband, father of my kids and spend the rest of my life with him. At the time that is how it felt. My parents was like 'its not going to last, we know that you think its going to last forever because we've been through it too! Its always like that with first relationship.' I didn't believe them, I was just thinking ' what do you know, its a new generation.' lol. And yes they were right! After we broke up, it was like a reality check!  I thought to myself  'what was I thinking? No way could I have spend the rest of my life with someone like that!' Lol. At first I did regret that I had this relationship for so long- waste of my time! But I don't regret it anymore because if I didn't have that relationship I wouldn't know what a good and bad relationship is, what it's like to be in a relationship, the role of a girlfriend and of course changed my perception of life.(Not that I know a lot, but at least I know something)  Oh! I'm not saying it applies to everyone because I know some are married to their first boyfriend. All I can say is relationship is a massive life lesson.

The other day at work, an old man said to me that I shouldn't ever regret anything because at least I know what it's like after I've done it and if it was bad just don't do it again. Its true but sometimes I guess we do forget lol.


Of course there are many other things that teaches us a lesson; work, family problems, school, friends, holiday, lots more...you name it. Of course not every experience is a bad one, a good one still can teach us many things. But we just need to always look on the bright/ positive side. No matter how bad a situation is, there is always a positive side to it. E.g. You gamble in a casino and lose all your money, and that teaches you not to gamble again! lol. maybe thats not a good example but you know what I mean! Just don't regret anything. If you do, don't be too long make it short and move on!