Hi everyone! Today's post is going to be different to what I usually blog about. It's not about beauty, health, fitness or food but education and life. I'm supposed to be doing my dissertation but I just had this eagerness to write this post. So hope you enjoy it and please share :)
A few days ago, the A-level results were out here in the UK. I think GCSEs results are out this week. I'm writing this because I want to pass on some positive words to A-level and GCSEs students. Well, I hope you will find it positive and encouraging lol.
For those who achieved As and Bs, CONGRATULATIONS! What are your plans?
For those who didn't do so well, still well done for the effort but just know that it is
NOT the end of the world. You can still be successful in life,
nothing is impossible...well apart from us flying. My all time favourite quote by Bruce Lee,
"Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality." I have that written out and pinned up on my vision board to remind myself. I'm saying this because I didn't do well at all in my A-levels. Anyways, I'm going to tell you about my story and you will know what I mean.
I come from a Chinese background and most of you may know how demanding Chinese parents are. Nothing is good but an A or A*. Being the oldest child of the family, my parents...actually my mum was the most demanding one, my mum expected me to do extremely well in school and achieve straight As. Always telling me so and so son or daughter got N As & A*s. So I sort of had the pressure to do well otherwise I'll be doomed for the rest of my life. Also, my mum's side of the family, every one did quite well academically and most went to university. I have a cousin who has a Masters and PHD degree in University of Cambridge, so the younger ones were expected to do as good. In other words, we got compared. Oh how I hated that!
So what did I get for my GCSEs and A-Levels?
When I first got them I didn't tell my relatives because I was so ashamed and my parents were so angry especially my mum. But I will tell you now. I don't care.
GCSEs: Straight Bs and 1 A* in Chinese
A-Levels: C, D, E. (U in AS- Level French but retook and got a D)
When I got my GCSEs, my mum was so disappointed because she was expecting As of course but I didn't even get ONE, lol. The A* didn't count because its Chinese. She had a massive go at me. Saying how I didn't put any effort into my work and I didn't revise enough, how she told me to revise more, etc. It went on weeks, I'm telling you. For her to react like that with straight Bs, you can imagine what she was like when I got my A-levels. lol.
When I got my A-levels result, I was scared and upset. Scared because my mum was going to have a massive go at me. lol. Upset because of those rubbish grades and that meant not being able to get into the university I applied for. The moment I looked at my grades, the world stopped. I really thought it was the end and the embarrassment of how I've told my relatives that I'm going City University to study Law. Well, I had to face it. So clearing was the option for me and I went to University of Westminster and studied Criminology and Economics there. Some of my friends went there too, so I was sort of happy going there. My mum sort of gave up on me since then lol. She didn't care what I studied and which uni I went to. Btw she was expecting me to go to a top university before and so she wasn't pleased at all me going to Westminster. Lol. I actually did try to apply to UCL but was rejected straight away, didn't even pass the first stage lol. The course was three years and I graduated with a upper second class. I was extremely happy. Ok, I know some got first class but I didn't think I could even get a 2:1 because I did so bad in my A-levels. This was the first best achievement in my life. It wasn't easy, I worked hard for it especially the final year.
You know what? I'm glad I didn't get the grades and went through clearing instead. One because it was kind of a reality check. Two, I didn't really want to study Law anyway lol- I only applied for it because I had no idea what to study and thought my parents would like it.
What did I do next?
I took two years off studying and just did some work experience and temporary jobs. That was also good because it was another reality check. It made me realise how hard it was to get a job even if you've got a degree. It's all about the experience. I was being picky about jobs too and getting rejected a few times I was losing my confidence. I thought something was wrong with me. My plan was to study masters after having worked for a couple of years, so I did apply for masters.
Achieving a 2:1 meant that I could apply for top universities like UCL and I have always wanted to study there. So I applied for masters at UCL, studying Business Management. Fortunately, I was unsuccessful (Yes, I said FORTUNATELY), I think because I applied quite late, I know sounds like an excuse. lol but you know what? I'm glad I was unsuccessful that time because I am doing something much better now.
I was disappointed when I received the letter but I thought it was my fault for applying late. But I did NOT give up, because I believed that I can get into UCL. The applications reopened in October so I immediately applied to UCL again but for different course, Technology Entrepreneurship. Two months later, I got a letter from UCL saying that I got accepted on to the course and will start in September 2013. I was extremely happy and just wanted it to be September 2013 the next day. I wanted to start straight away. I absolutely love this course and am doing quite well. I have never enjoyed studying like I do now. lol.
When I first got rejected by UCL to study bachelors, I thought I didn't have the ability. So I was thinking I won't ever get in to a top university. One night I was walking near UCL with a friend and I said 'I wanted to study here but they rejected me. I wont ever get to study here.' And my friend said to me, "yes, you will. I believe you can. If you really want it, you will get it." When he said that, I was thinking you're just saying that to comfort me. He probably was lol. But he was right though, well still is. Being accepted to a top university made me realise nothing is impossible and I truly believe if you want something and you work for it, you will get it. My persistent gained me a place.
Another note, if you're at a stage not knowing what exactly you want to do in life, what sort of career path to choose or what course to study at university. Don't worry. If its to do with career, apply for all sort of jobs and that way you can discover your strengths and weaknesses and interests that you weren't aware of. If it's education, you should take a gap year or two. Go into employment first or travel. From the experience, you will have learnt more about yourself and will know which course will suit you best. During my A-levels, I applied to university for the sake of applying. I had no clue what I wanted study, it was too much of a rush for me. It was only when I graduated, I realised what I wanted to study. If I can go back in time, I wouldn't go straight to university. I would go into employment first.
In conclusion, everything happens for a reason. Don't have regrets, learn from it.
The fact I didn't get my grades and went through clearing probably happened for a reason. Otherwise, I would be so miserable studying Law, no offence to those who studied it or are studying it lol.
Never give up! Always look on the bright side and think positive. If you want something really bad, work for it, be persistent. You will eventually get it unexpectedly. Another Bruce Lee quote for you, "You have your choice- you are master of attitude- choose the POSITIVE, the CONSTRUCTIVE.Optimism is a faith that leads to success." No matter what it is you're doing, believe in yourself.
I hope you liked this post and found it inspiring or encouraging. If so, please share :)